“But I know every rock and tree and creature,
Has a light, has a spirit, has a name.”
~Colors of the Wind
[photography credit: Josh Fears]
[Location: Cape Falcon Trail, Cannon Beach, Oregon]
I felt it. I felt it strongly today.
Walking across the parking lot after dropping my daughter off at pre-school, I saw another mom walking my direction. Her hair and makeup were perfect. She looked cool, calm, and collected. She held the hands of her two children, who looked just as fashionable as their mother. She walked with confidence. She was gorgeous.
I became suddenly aware of myself. Aware of my hair, that was just thrown up in a messy bun that I tried to make look somewhat pretty this morning. Aware of my outfit. Aware of my own daughter’s clothes; aware that she was not wearing Uggs or whatever the latest, most popular fashion is at the moment.
I wanted to run and hide.
You see, before I had walked out the door of my house that morning, I thought I had looked pretty; that even though I hadn’t washed my hair that morning and it wasn’t styled, that at least my face looked good. My face covered in makeup.
But, now, standing there in the parking lot, I felt something entirely different than I had a few minutes before. I felt it. I felt like I wasn’t good enough.
I felt like I wasn’t pretty enough.
I was comparing myself to this other woman; this complete stranger, and debasing my own value and outward beauty based on what I saw looking at her.
Call it insecurity, call it low self-confidence, call it shallowness…whatever it was in that moment, I did not like it. I did not like that feeling at all.
It reminded me back to high school. There was a courtyard area at my school that was known as “The Bricks.” The bricks is where all the “preps”, as they were called, congregated after lunch, and where they waited and hung out before the school bell would ring. There were hundreds of them. I wasn’t in this group in high school. I didn’t hang with the popular crowd. Some days, I hated that I wasn’t in that group, but I had my own group of friends whom I loved and cared about deeply. I always found myself searching out the “outcasts”…,the “loners” and befriending them. The quote “weird” ones. Not all of my friends were this way, but I did have quite a few of the ones who were a little different. I found that the “outcasts” shouldn’t have been cast out. They were amazing people. Friendly. Genuine. Funny. Unique. Creative. Deep, caring souls.
But I remembered today what it felt like to hold your breath as you have to walk through the group of people who you see, and who probably themselves believe and see themselves as better than you. To just want to get past them, so you don’t have to feel that feeling of not belonging. Of not being good enough.
It made me think about myself and where I’m at now. Life is a journey, and so is the journey of loving ourselves. There have been the days and years where my confidence and love for myself was as high as Mount Kilimanjaro. I loved myself – inside and out. I was proud of who I was. I think those times, I had a place of belonging. My senior year in high school, because of the amazing friends I had in my church youth group. Because I was a leader that year, and my friends and peers looked up to me. In college, because I found another place and group of people where I felt I belonged. Who told me and showed me that there was every reason in the world to see myself as awesome. Also, my parents and sister have always shown me so much love and given me words of affirmation to know how truly special I am. And then, I met a boy in 2009, a boy named Josh, (who later became my husband) who sent my self-confidence all the way up to the moon!
I think during those times, too, my walk with God was close. We were “tight.” I talked to Him often. I felt my worth from others, but most importantly, from Him. I knew He loved me and was proud of me. I had my days of doubt, yes, but overall, I was secure.
Where am I at now? It’s a journey, as I said, and there are events and things that take place in our lives that forever change us.
Over two years ago, I went through an event like this. Going through postpartum depression forever changed me.
In many ways, as one can imagine or if one has gone through something such as this, you can see the ways it has impacted you negatively. I could make a list of how it did so for me, but that’s not the point or what I want to focus on with these words I am writing.
In my deepest and darkest time of my life, I turned to God. I clung to Him. I talked to Him and prayed to Him more than I ever had. Almost every minute of every day. Pleading with him to heal me.
And He did.
And from that day onward, after winning the battle, I have changed. I have changed for the better in so many ways.
I have risen. I have blossomed and flourished. When you go through something like that, your heart opens up to life more than it ever has. For me, I was so thankful. I decided to help others. I had a confidence in myself, because I had beat something that had tried to take my life. And I had, with God’s help, beaten Satan.
And I wanted to LIVE. To truly live. To take advantage of this healing that had come to me. To take advantage of this body of mine that God created and breathed life into. I didn’t want to sit on my rear and be a stagnant waste of space. I have stepped out of my comfort zone in so many ways that I would have never dreamed of.
For the past two years since getting better, I would say and others around me too, I think would say, they have seen the positive changes in myself.
My self-confidence, however, has taken its ups and downs during this time period. One of those things I blame that on is PPD. When I have been in my low of lows, it’s then that I know or start to realize that Satan has gotten in the way between me and God. I haven’t been talking to God as much as I should. I haven’t been in his Word.
Instead, I’ve been in the world.
I’ve been seeking my worth from the world. From people. From their words. From my friendships. From my relationship with my husband. From family.
I’ve been seeking what only God can give me. My beauty is not found on the label on my clothes. It is not found in how perfect I can try and make my hair look. It is not found in the bright pink lipstick that I sometimes wear.
Yes, God did make me beautiful on the outside, which I need to strive constantly to see and believe this. But, my beauty should be ultimately found from within. That my heart and soul and spirit be beautiful. That my thoughts be pure and glorifying to God.
And my worth should come not from others, but from Him, the Lord God above; “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139:13)
In God’s eyes, I belong. I belong to Him. I am his daughter. The daughter of a King. And in his eyes, I am enough. I am MORE than enough. And I am loved. I am loved and cherished by Him.
I should live my life every day with a grateful heart and where I can say, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
And my hope is that the next time I see that woman or someone who in my eyes looks perfect to me – that I can say to myself, “She is beautiful . . .
And so am I.”
Ignorance is bliss, they say, and I believe this to be true sometimes. My husband and I were ignorant about this trail we were about to embark upon. The brochure and the sign at the head of the trail said it was 2 1/2 miles. From what I read and interpreted this meant 2 1/2 miles…total. Roundtrip. I thought this trail would be a walk in the park.
We began walking on the trail with the adrenaline, energy, enthusiasm, and excitement that awaits hikers as they begin their adventure. A new path…a new forest. A beautiful array of trees covered in moss that our eyes had never beheld, a vast emerald canopy above our heads. Ferns that felt like feathers as that lightly brushed against us as we passed beside them. We didn’t know where this trail would lead us. Would it lead us to the sea?
I was ready to accomplish something. I was seeking a challenge – for me, that’s part of what hiking is about. Little did I know, I was certainly about to have my mind and my body challenged.
As we walked along in the early morning hours, the cold rain dripped down on us and we could see our frosty breath. The cold air was invigorating. We didn’t see a soul on the trail; we had it to ourselves, something I long for. It was just my husband and I….and the tall, towering trees. It felt magical and I imagined I was in the fairy tale world of Mirkwood where the elves dwell and sing tales of old and have great feasts in the forest. We began to hear a rushing river and finally caught a glimpse of it through an opening in the trees, flowing down below us. We were excited. We were having fun. Every few steps, we would stop to take pictures or use our GoPro. The going was long, but I was okay with this, thinking to myself that we were already about halfway there. The going was also tough, as we dodged tree roots, and thousands of puddles of mud.
My husband Josh had downloaded an app that tracked our distance. We were hoping this was going to be a loop trail; to see new sights on our way back to the car park, and to not have to retrace our steps.
We then heard a sound that made our hearts skip a beat…the sound of the sea. Our pace naturally quickened as we were eager to hopefully catch a glimpse of the roaring waves of the Pacific.
At last, we rounded a bend and saw the thundering ocean. The view was breathtaking as the sun had peaked out from behind the clouds and was in its full glory…a rarity for this time of year on the Oregon coast. We paused for a moment to take it all in. There were surfers waiting in the water for the next wave to ride and we could hear their enthusiastic shouts even from where we stood, hundreds of feet above their bobbing heads.
All the hiking we had done this beautiful morning had been worth it for this wonderful moment – this view and to feel the warm sun upon our faces.
But we still weren’t at the end of the trail! I’m not a wildnerness or hiking expert, but I was pretty sure that we had already gone at least two miles and I was beginning to think that this was no loop trail at all, but that we’d have to go the way we had come. This was starting to get to me a little bit, and I was already feeling quite tired. Each step further that we took meant we would have to turn back and take that step back. I love hiking with all of my heart, but today I wasn’t feeling my best physically and something I am quite familiar with was starting to creep in.
We were about to turn back, as we looked at the map on our hiking app, and thinking that perhaps we had already made it to the end point of the Cape Falcon trail, and that now we were on the Oregon Coast Trail (which leads north up the Pacific Northwestern coast to Canada).
Just as I turned to walk back, we finally saw a couple of other people headed our way on the trail. They informed us that “yes, you are still on the Cape Falcon trail, and yes, you must keep going … just 10 more minutes until you reach the amazing viewpoint.”
Ok. Keep going.
That gave us a little push to continue onwards. It lit a fire, albeit a small one, within me. At this point, for me it was a bit of pride to be able to say that we had completed the trail, and, of course, we had come this far, so we had to keep going, even though I was starting to feel physically taxed. We finally made it to the lookout point of the trail, and the view of the expansive sea thousands of feet below us was phenomenal. It was unnerving to see a massive drop off and only a few bushes that served as a barrier between us. We continued on to another viewing point, which was a steep path downwards in order to get to the spot. I felt vertigo start to settle in somewhere within me and I was beginning to feel a little bit of fear. The waves thundered angrily, slamming against the massive rocks and boulders with such loud force, sending foamy waves raging down onto the other side of the rocks. I was amazed and in awe by the strength of the ocean. I was intimidated by its power.
By this time, I was ready to go back. I wanted to be off this trail. I wanted to be back in town, back to Cannon Beach, where all the people were. I was beginning to feel that we were isolated, and I wasn’t liking the thought of that.
I had barely stopped for a moment’s breath the entire hike, as I was just in the mode of “Go, go, go!” We had to hike back up the steep paths and my heart was racing and pounding. Josh was a little behind me, and I was a girl on a mission: “Just make it back to the car.”
It was happening. I was starting to panic.
I became aware of the fact that I had been holding my breath most of the hike. I had a cold, too, making it hard to breathe through my nose. I was thinking to myself, “I feel so weird. I feel so weird.” I began to feel lightheaded and dizzy. I felt weak.
I think the panic and anxiety had started to set in once I found out that we had to go back the way we had come – I was finally certain this was no loop trail. The app said we had walked four miles. That meant four miles back the way we had come. As I said, ignorance had been our bliss, but when reality set in that this was going to be an 8 miler as opposed to the 2 miles we had originally thought, I immediately felt disheartened and discouraged. I didn’t feel prepared for this.
My mind was two steps ahead of me and I walked as fast as I could, knowing each step I made would get me closer to where I wanted to be. Just back at that car park. I was envisioning and replaying what lay before us. And I knew how long it had taken to get to the viewing point, and that it would take us that long to get back to the car. The roaring of the ocean could still be heard, and I wanted to get away from it.
It didn’t take long. You see, it didn’t take long at all for the panic to set in. I was aware of everything and fear was overtaking me. These were some of my thoughts: I’d only seen about five people on this whole trail; where was everybody? We were so far away from our car, and away from civilization. What if I needed medical attention? How would they get to me? Why was my heart beating so fast? Why do I feel so weak? Why am I so exhausted? What if I can’t make it back to the car?
I finally stopped, turned around and told Josh that I felt weird. That I felt scared. I was feeling emotional and wanting to cry.
I told him all my symptoms. He was like, “Just stop baby. Stop and take a break. Breathe.”
No. I didn’t want to stop. I felt this urgency that we had to get back to the car. I wanted to be in our lodge, in our cozy room, away from the elements, and just sitting by the warm fire. I imagined this scene and this was my beacon of light to press onward, was thinking of the comforts of our “home away from home”. I realized how ravenous I was, and I dreamed up a feast waiting for me.
Josh, being the practical one, and me not being levelheaded at that moment, said, “Baby, you need to drink some water! You’re probably dehydrated.” Maybe he was right. Had I drank any water this entire time? Maybe a couple sips now that I thought about it. I said I was hungry, too, but I didn’t think we had packed any snacks. I felt like I was going to pass out.
Those moments were scary. Those moments of panic. I wanted so desperately to be out of that forest. “Get me out of here!” I felt like screaming, if I had had the strength. I couldn’t remember any of the “tools” I’ve learned along the way of how to deal with a panic attack. I grabbed the water bottle and guzzled down what I could, which helped me focus on trying to breathe through my nose. I had to calm myself down. I had some anxiety medicine in my backpack, but that didn’t even cross my mind at that moment. We did thankfully have some snacks in our packs, (thanks to Southwest Airlines for the peanuts and crackers) which I inhaled and I found an old protein bar. I said to Josh, “Let’s keep going.” The panic was still there and my only hope of escaping it was escaping this quiet, peaceful forest.
I started focusing on my breathing as we walked along and I continued eating my protein bar. My pace started to slow. I thought of how I would breathe in yoga, and focused as hard as I could on trying to have rhythmic breath and breathing slowly in and out through my nose. My breath deepened.
As we continued at a slower pace along the trail, the sound of the ocean subsided and was replaced by the quiet of the forest, and I felt a calm finally wash over my mind and body. I became suddenly aware of the beauty around me. The sun rays shining down into the forest around us, making the ferns and moss-covered trees an even more vibrant green than when we had seen them earlier that morning. The light and warmth from the sun brought me peace and comfort. I heard a bird singing for the first time I’d heard on the entire hike. The sound of quiet streams filled my ears. Strength was being renewed to my body.
I had gained some confidence in myself and felt proud that I didn’t need medicine to get through those moments. I was thankful that it had passed, those moments of panic. It wasn’t a full-on panic attack like I’ve had before, but it got pretty close.
It doesn’t take long for our minds to get ahead of us. For our thoughts to start racing. For the fear to take over all rational.
When you are in a state of panic, you can’t think clearly.
But I had made it through. And now, the forest was peaceful again, and I was calm.
As Josh and I continued walking at a slow pace back to the car, I found an energy I can’t explain take over. I was relieved and elated that the panic and anxiety had left me. I began thinking about what had just happened and all the reasons why I had gotten to that point.
When you’re hiking, there’s something about knowing you have to go back the way you came. You know the trail . . . you know what it looked like – you know all the obstacles that you encountered. A mighty tree that had fallen across our path before we came upon it, blocking our way. The lengths we had to go through to get past the tree. The river we had to cross – the feeling I had holding my breath walking steadily and cautiously on a fallen tree that was a bridge to cross the river. I knew the methodical steps I had to take as I stepped carefully around the deep, sloshy puddles of mud and the care I had to take to not trip over the endless tree roots springing up across the path.
I knew how long it had taken. That it had not been easy. That some parts of it had been challenging and made me want to give up and just turn back and not finish the trail.
And so, as I walked back, I thought about my moments of panic, and how it related to life. I thought to myself, “Don’t look too far ahead into the future.” For one thing, it can overwhelm you. Take one step at a time. Focus on the here and now. Don’t get ahead of the game. Be present in this moment.
You see, I had the whole journey back played out in my head, and in my head I remembered every little obstacle. Life is sometimes about perspective, to dwell on the puddles of mud and the steep and challenging parts, instead of thinking about the gentle sound of the streams as we passed beside them. I forgot about the magnificent tree at the start of the trail that was completely covered in soft moss that felt like a cloud to the touch of my hand.
And, then, I thought of something else.
I thought back to a dark time in my life. I thought about a journey that I had taken. A long and difficult one. I reflected back to when my daughter was first born, and I suffered from postpartum depression/anxiety. It reminded me of the “out and back” trail that we were currently on. I already knew what that journey (or, more rather, “battle”) looked like. I know that trail now, because I’ve walked down it. I remember every obstacle that stood in my way from reaching recovery – from getting to the end of my journey and back to where I wanted to be -which was to be healed. I know how long it took, and how hard it was; that it nearly took me down. I don’t ever want to walk that dark path again.
I have that fear. Why would one want to go back down the same path again, when they know how treacherous it had been? There are some days when that fear is very real and present, of having to go back there.
Perhaps we all have our times in life that we would not want to re-live and that we’d do just about anything to not have to go through it again. For we know what it looks like; what it felt like. What it did.
For us, on this particular trail called Cape Falcon, there wasn’t a new trail that suddenly or miraculously appeared on our way back to the car park. We took the same trail. But, I found that the way back wasn’t so bad after all. The obstacles I remembered from before weren’t as threatening. Maybe it was divine intervention, but the steps back to our car seemed to be quicker, thus getting us to the car park quicker. The path leveled out and we soon were in sight of our destination, where we had started from.
I know that I can’t live in fear, captive to the thought of having to go down that path of postpartum depression again. We cannot live in fear. For, maybe, if I do have to go down it again, I pray that the path will be easier than the one I’ve already seen and been on. That there will be a bridge across the puddles of mud. That there will be a railing along the tree that crosses the river, to bring me comfort and to keep me safe. That the trees blocking my way, causing me to want to give up, will have been removed from my way. That God will have straightened my path.
Or, maybe He will provide a fork in the road; a new path entirely – one in which I will not have to know that darkness again.
No, we can’t live in fear. We have to keep on going. We can’t turn back. It is worth every step you take, even if you have to drag yourself through the mud to get there to your destination.
And so it was for me.
We finally saw the moss-covered tree that we had seen earlier that morning and I felt rejoicing in my heart, as this beautiful tree meant we had made it! I was thankful to see this majestic tower reaching high up to the sky.
I then wrapped my arms around its trunk as far as they would go, and I hugged that tree with all of my might.
I was smiling and laughing.
I had made it.
“And the time came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Flowers long to see the sun. They long for the spring. Flowers were meant to bloom forth from the earth. And when they do blossom after the cold and harsh winter, they shine with brilliant colors. They radiate. They stand tall and proud, for they know they are beautiful. The flowers know that being confined and imprisoned in a cage is not their fate. Not their destiny nor their purpose.
And so it is with us.
We were not put on this earth to remain tightly closed in a bud. Imprisoned. Not meant to be bound by fear. By self-doubt. By self-limitations. By anxiety. You name it…we all know what keeps each of us bound in chains.
We were meant to flourish.
I know what it’s like to remain tight in a bud. And I don’t like being there. And then there have been the times when I did not, could not, and would not remain there. But I found myself blossoming. Opening my arms to adventure. To trying new things. To stepping outside of my comfort zone. To looking outside of myself and helping others. There have been times I have seen myself truly blossom, and it has been beautiful.
I’ve seen myself bloom the most since my daughter was born two years ago. I fought a battle the first few months of her life, an illness called postpartum depression. I fought that battle with every fiber of my being. I still have scars and I am wounded from that battle. That was a season. A season that I will call my dark winter.
That season of my life occurred during the fall and winter months. I remember we had an early spring that year, and my healing coincided with the sun coming out from behind the clouds. My healing came when the rain stopped falling from the sky. It came as the flowers rejoiced with me that the darkness had passed.
It was a season. A temporary season that did not last forever. At the time, every day felt like a lifetime. But the point is, that the winter passed. And the spring came.
I was healed. I had survived.
And, so then, I blossomed.
I seized the day. I thanked God for the breath in my body. For vanquishing away all the dark and scary thoughts. For taking my tears away. I thanked Him for my beating heart.
I was more thankful for life than I had ever been. I lived with zeal and had a newfound energy. A desire to get all I can out of this life, and to give. I helped others who were fighting the battle I had fought. I had new eyes. A new perspective. More compassion and understanding in my heart for those who stood where I had stood.
I created a support group. I was a leader. I did public speaking within my support group; something completely out of my comfort zone. But I had to. I had to help others. I wanted to. I shared my story. Over and over.
I did things I never dreamed of doing. Like going to boot camp. We’re talking about a girl here who took a bowling class as her athletic/P.E. course in high school! Who just simply doesn’t run. Not ever.
And I started doing yoga . . . something which I had previously always just rolled my eyes at.
Was I intimidated? I can say with a resounding “YES!”, I was. But I did it anyway. And I found out it wasn’t so bad. In fact, I found myself loving both boot camp AND yoga. I began finding that trying new things was kind of exhilarating. That I was filled with a newfound confidence that I was able to overcome my hesitations, doubts, and fears.
I don’t ever want to remain tight in a bud. I want to blossom. Every day. I want to encourage and inspire others to blossom. There is a world of opportunity out there, of adventures, just waiting for you. The possibilities for your life are endless. I love the saying, “Bloom where you are planted”. Go. Seek. Find. Right where you are now. Make the most of every day.
Be like the wildflowers in the valley surrounded by the mountains. They see the harshest and coldest of winters. Perhaps you are in that place right now. But when spring and summer come, the valley is covered in a rainbow of every color imaginable. Each flower is unique. They stand tall and proud. And they dance.
They dance in the wind. They dance for they know what it was like to be hidden away from the sun. To know only cold and darkness. And so, they rejoice with all their hearts to see the sun again.
May we be like the wildflowers.
May we dance in the wind.
“Home is the place where it feels right to walk around without shoes.” -Unknown
Josh and I couldn’t have felt happier, knowing that in two weeks we would soon be finally moving into our own place, and that we had made the right choice. There was no longer that feeling of dread in our stomachs, but instead we were filled with relief. We could laugh again, at ourselves and the mess we had gotten ourselves into, and that we had luckily escaped what would have been a very bad and rash decision-making process. It makes for a story though; one we will never forget. I think what made us happiest of all was that we wouldn’t ever have to step foot in that shower, and we would have ourselves a nice, modern bathroom. After all the experiences we’d encountered and learning more about ourselves and each other, Josh noted something and made fun of me one night as we were driving, laughing at his wife and saying, “You know, baby, you really are high maintenance!” I gasped and in the most dramatic tone came back with, “I’m not high maintenance . . . I’m American!” haha, we thought that was pretty funny. And we both knew, too, that if I am high maintenance, which I have never considered myself to be, well, then he is right up there with me.
The next couple of days we found that the property management had been picking up again, and we were kept busy with that, cleaning houses. As my parents and sister can tell you, as well as any roommates I’ve had and Josh, I am certainly no clean freak at home. In fact, quite the opposite. You would think I would have outgrown this phase from my childhood, but it doesn’t seem to want to leave me. Cleaning is not my favorite thing to do. So, here I was cleaning other people’s houses for money. Makes a lot of sense, right? Not really, I know, but I actually didn’t mind it all that much. Whenever I would clean my room or my apartments, well, I did clean it by golly, and I was very thorough. I take my time with a lot of things, well, basically everything, even walking I am slow, so it would take me forever to clean; probably why I didn’t like doing it so much for I’d spend all day. I will always remember cleaning those houses in New Zealand. The ones we cleaned that week were for the property management company, end of lease top to bottom makeover. The biggest kick I got out of it, was, I bet you can guess, was getting to tour these houses. They were top dollar rental homes, with outstanding views. One of the houses had been rented out by two bachelors, who surprisingly kept it well maintained and it wasn’t too hard to clean, it was just so big that it took forever. It was the most modern house I’ve ever seen; which I really don’t like when the architecture is sleek and straight with only blacks and silvers and no warm colors; makes it cold and uninviting, and more like an upscale business office. Stainless steel kitchen and appliances, a marble rock granite countertop island that was so heavy that it had to be lifted in by a machine when this house was built; twenty men couldn’t have carried it. The refrigerator was hidden into the wall making it like it was just part of the cabinets. Josh and I had the joy of cleaning the kitchen; which certainly took all day long. Erol, our boss, helped every now and then throughout the day as he had other jobs, and there were two other girls to clean the house as well, that’s how big a house it was.
We had fun, though, Josh and I, working together in the kitchen. I wouldn’t have done it if I were by myself. We kept encouraging each other, and motivated the other to continue on. For lunch, we brought our food; nasty sandwiches that we despise eating, a big bottle of coke, and cheesy Dorito chips. Very healthy. We sat by the glass walls though, and looked out at the ocean, which was so beautiful and uplifting to see the turquoise blue water. I remember it was terribly windy that day . . . the morning had been pouring down cold rain, which eventually passed but the wind was ruthless, causing even this newly built, expensive home to shift and sway. I was beginning to realize that they weren’t lying when they called it “Windy Wellington”. By the end of the day after cleaning those houses, we were completely exhausted. It really was hard work; much more so than I would have expected. On your hands and knees basically all day, smelling the fumes of the cleaning solutions and scrubbing with all your might; my muscles in my arms and legs ached. Didn’t realize I would get such a work out. We’d come home just lethargic and our heavy bodies just wanted to crash. I usually had a horrible headache too and felt a little dizzy.
One house we cleaned, I didn’t realize we were in such a time crunch to complete, nor did our boss. We would usually finish or be about done by 5:00, that’s when Erol would let us go home. Josh and I cleaned this particular house by ourselves, with Erol coming back and forth between jobs to help. I thought we were doing pretty good on time. It was another huge house, two story, with distracting sea views. I chose to do the bathrooms; a mistake I had soon learned. Not very pleasant. Our boss told us how it needed to be spic and span when it was done, because the people from the property management would inspect it and there would be a problem if they saw anything wrong, and let him know. Well, I thought they usually inspected it AFTER we were finished, as in the next day. This company apparently had a different idea. I was about ready to give out I was so tired of cleaning the dirty bathrooms, when I heard several voices. Who in the world is here and what do they want? I was annoyed. Then I was figuring it out; the property management or leasing agents, whoever they were, had arrived ridiculously early and were already there showing the house to a couple interested in renting the property. Oh, I don’t think so; it’s not time yet, we are not done, why are you here! I was thinking. I figured I would just ignore them and not even look at them or stop what I was doing or smile, or get out of the way so they could view the bathroom. That sounds rude, but nonetheless those were my thoughts as my eyes were watering and burning from the fumes, I was on my hands and knees scrubbing the shower, and I was in my oversized polo shirt that swallowed me up and that had the company cleaning name on it. I felt so grungy and I knew I looked horrible. As I heard the voices get closer, and then they were right in the hallway and looking in the rooms right by the bathroom I was in and peeking in the door. I didn’t even look up. Out of the corner of my eye, I could see the lady and man who worked for the company in their fancy clothes. They could have at least said hi, I was thinking, but then again I didn’t make eye contact, so maybe that’s why! They all sounded very picky and complaining about the most minute things. The lady went and grabbed Josh this one time to talk about an oil stain that must have come in from the rain off of the door’s hinges that led to the balcony. She griped about it to him, like he could do something about it. Okay lady, hold your horses and calm down, I was thinking. What she did say to me when she walked by was “Oh, are you on bathroom duty?” That’s why she didn’t bother me that time.
Well, she needed someone to complain to and humiliate for the next bedroom. The prospective renters, who had their noses high up in the air it sounded like from their conversation and complaints, noticed a problem. The real estate snob lady came into the bathroom, and said, “Excuse me, can I get you to come in here, I need to show you something.” “Uh-huh”, I said. Ugh. She brought me into the bedroom in front of the people and the other businessman in his suit, and said, “we noticed this mark on the wall, and there are a couple others on the other wall, just wanting to make you aware of it and to make sure that gets taken care of”…something along those lines. It made me so mad and I was so annoyed at that lady and her snobbish attitude, it took everything within me not to say something mean to her. I had a number of lines I could have used that were in my head and that I wanted to go find her later and tell her; but I refrained. She might have expected me to scrub the mark off the wall right in front of them, so they could see it magically disappear, but instead I stated the obvious and what made me most mad of all about the situation; “Oh, well, we haven’t gotten to this room yet” I said, “but we will get to it later”. Duh! Can’t you see you got here way too early, and the job is not yet complete as you can see we are still in here cleaning? Maybe if we were done and out of the house and they saw the mark, then yes, that would be a problem. The mark, or marks, which I did scrub off later with much vigor, could only be seen with an infrared light; I don’t even know how they saw it. And second of all, don’t treat me like a lowly servant and bring me into the room with the clients/prospective renters to make herself look good and have power, but instead, she could have waited until the people left and came back in there and spoken to me privately about things they had noticed along the way. I walked out of the room after I said that and she said, “Thank you!” and I said “You’re welcome” but I said it very shortly and it sounded so fake and overly enthusiastic. I wanted to throw my gloves on the ground and yell, “I’d like to see you clean this place, you Nazi!” Lol. But, I didn’t. That wouldn’t have been very nice or Christian of me J I felt really sad after that too; it was humiliating, unless I am just super sensitive and I was tired, but I didn’t like the way that made me feel. I could even hear and imagine the little mice coming out from their holes and singing to me:
Night and day it’s Cinderelly
Make the fire, fix the breakfast
Wash the dishes, do the mopping
And the sweeping and the dusting
They always keep her hopping
She goes around in circles
Till she’s very, very dizzy
Still they holler
Keep a-busy Cinderelly!”
Josh came in a few minutes later to check on me. I think he has some kind of intuition or connection with me, because he always knows when something is wrong, or he just knows me that well. He made me feel better about it, and then I heard her call on him like two more times talking about carpet stains, which of course is not our fault or problem, and Josh became just as fed up with her as I was. Erol made us feel better about it after they all left, and said this had happened to him before. We told him about her telling us about all that was wrong, and he said he had learned a lot of things, like always to close all the windows and turn off the lights and thermostats, otherwise, we’d get in trouble for it if the house was robbed or the power bill very high. He laughed and said, “It’s always the cleaner’s fault; we get blamed for everything!” His humor and good attitude about it made us feel better. Our job was certainly not glamorous, but besides incidents like that, it wasn’t too bad and we didn’t mind that much. It gave us freedom, we thought, and was paying good enough. On the other hand though, we still felt a bit uneasy knowing we were basically on call and didn’t know how many jobs we would be having each week and if it would be enough to let us live decently. We didn’t think it would be very steady or reliable.
God must have been really wanting to take care of us. Towards the end of that first week of moving into the Raine’s house, one day we had gone shopping and were sitting in the parking lot after looking for stuff for our new place, and Josh got a phone call. I listened to the conversation and liked what I was hearing. A week before, Josh had received a call back from the interview he did for the employment agency for a possible insurance job. At the time, he had said the interview had gone really well, he thought. I knew he was going to do excellent, and was very proud of him. They had said they would get back with him in the next few days. I guess we had kind of forgotten about it or not wanting to get too excited about it, and not sure if we would have wanted him to get it yet anyways as we learned it was a full-time job, 8 to 5. I don’t think I had mentioned this earlier, but that interview I was supposed to go to in the beginning of January with another employment office, I had e-mailed and cancelled, because back then we decided I wouldn’t need to do that, since we had found the cleaning job and thought that would work for both of us to stick with that. Well, anyways, so he got a call back from the second interview, and HE GOT THE JOB! He said he would talk to his wife about it first and call back to confirm, so he got off the phone and we talked about it. We were so happy and I was so proud of him; he said they had said what a great job he did in the interview. We talked about it for a little bit, and I knew he was so excited and what a great opportunity this would be for him and the future. Of course, it meant we wouldn’t be working together anymore, and it would be full-time, Mon to Friday, 8 to 5, which didn’t give us much freedom to travel around so much, but it would give us security, a great salary and the amazing way of vacation time that they don’t do in America; 4 weeks paid vacation! It was a year contract, which was awesome and it’s hard to find a job like that on a working holiday visa. He would be working for the Earthquake Commission in Wellington, or EQC, handling the insurance claims of the hundreds of lives affected by the devastating earthquake in Christchurch the year before. He would be working for the government, which is pretty sweet, and it would look great on his resume in the future. Josh called his dad to tell him the good news, too. A few minutes later, and after Josh telling me this would mean that with that salary I wouldn’t have to work, then he called back and confirmed the job.
Josh got a new job!!! We were so happy and just felt so blessed at how everything had turned out. What a week that had been! We got ourselves a new flat that we loved and couldn’t wait to move into, and Josh got an amazing job. And I wasn’t going to have to work! I wasn’t going to mind that at all; I knew I certainly wouldn’t mind the break, and it would give me a chance to do what I never had the time for before since getting out of school and working full-time; write.
I would like to say that throughout this entire process…from the day of arriving to New Zealand and traveling back and forth between the North and South Island, living in different motels, hotels, people’s homes, and a caravan, and all the while on a scavenger hunt for a job and a place to live and adjusting to a new culture and each other and being away from our families, that I completely trusted or “gave it all to God” as I have learned and know is the right thing to do and what God wants from me. There were several times I found comfort in the thought that God had led us this far and in knowing that He would provide and take care of us and moments we both prayed, asking Him to let us trust Him. And there were the times when I failed to find this comfort, but instead fretted in my head and sat there and complained or stressed Josh out more so than he already was. I hate when I have to look back during times in my life when I see how stronger my faith and trust in God should have been; makes me disappointed in myself. Instead of thanking God every day for the journey we were on, and counting my blessings in how He was taking care of us, often times I would find myself simply frustrated with the circumstances and complaining. In hindsight, it’s so easy to say, “Oh yeah, I trusted God, I knew he was going to work it all out”, and maybe some of you are able to say that in every situation or sequence of events, whether good or bad, that has transpired in your life; if you are one of those people, then I tip my hat to you, if I were wearing one right now. But we may say that to others, or at least try to tell ourselves that, but only we know, and sometimes we lie even to ourselves, whether or not we really trusted God with all of our hearts. Not something I’m proud of, but I think it is a struggle, one that God knows and sympathizes with; He knows we are human. He knows we are selfish at times, and how arrogant we can be in our thinking. But He also knows that we are trying. I can imagine God up there sometimes, watching all of this. I bet He sure does get a kick out of it! I know He must laugh a lot at me, too. He probably wants to grab me by the shoulders sometimes and shake me and say, “Lindsey, what are you doing?!” Or “what are you thinking?” Trust me! Look around you!
I always love to think of the verse in the Bible that talks about God caring so much more about our lives than the sparrow. Yet He provides for those birds that we hear singing to us each morning. I am valuable to Him. And He loves me.
He is the proud parent sitting on the sideline of a basketball or football game, or, more rather in my case, my parents sitting in the audience with a video camera, taping my choir performances. What would I have done if my parents hadn’t been there, cheering me on? I probably would have quit. It meant the world to me, especially looking back now, that they were there at every performance or award’s ceremony in school. I wanted their approval, and love, and more than anything, I wanted to make them proud. I thought about that awhile back and related it to God. Of course I love to hear my parents say, “I love you!” That is such a wonderful feeling to have the unconditional love and support of parents who are in this game of life for you; they have always made you feel that way and that your life matters. But reflecting on my life growing up, and in high school, and college; I always did my best. Well, not every time of course or in every subject I sometimes slacked a little bit, but I honestly overall had the attitude and it came easy for me academically to always want to try my best; I was very motivated. I loved making good grades; and not just enough to get by, but I wanted that “A”, and I wanted to see my teachers leave hand-written comments at the end of a paper. That was one of the best things ever, having a teacher say what a great job or what they liked about a paper I had written. They had approved, and they were proud. And the reward seemed infinite when I would call my parents up when I was at LCU, and tell them what my grades were, or what I made on that test I stayed up nearly all night studying for. (I didn’t tell them about every test, of course, especially in my world history and geography class, good grief, his tests were hard!) I was thrilled to the core to hear their enthusiasm for my achievements. Or if I had done something good, or was making new friends, or writing a good article for the newspaper, or to hear that they were happy for my involvement in the youth group growing up and then at my church’s college group. Maybe it’s because we say “I love you” so often to each other, I’m not sure exactly the reason but I do know this: Even more so than hearing that phrase, it almost brings tears to my eyes now to think of those times hearing my Mom or Dad’s voice telling me, “I’m proud of you.” You’re proud of me? Wow. It is like they just opened the caterpillar’s cocoon hanging from the tree with their bare hands, sending the brilliant butterfly fluttering high above the world, so happy and free. And today, I ask myself, “Are they still proud of me? Are they proud of my life?” And that mindset, I had related that to God in the past when using that analogy and it’s a good reminder for me today. Imagine what that day will be like, when you meet God. This is what I imagine . . . hopefully He will have let me in, and so then I imagine meeting Him in a field in heaven. I am finally able to see Him face to face. It’s just me and Him. Of course I will want Him to say, “I love you, my child!”, but almost even more so and what gives me chills is to imagine Him smiling at me and with the knowledge in His head of the life I lived on earth and us both knowing how I lived, and that He knows the good and bad things I have done and what I’ve been through, He knows everything, and knows me; and I can see all of this in His eyes, and He smiles and with tears in His eyes says, “I’m proud of you.” And then embraces me.
How I hope He will be able to say that to me. I don’t want Him to look at me with sorrowful tears and say, “I’m disappointed in you.” I forget about this so many times and forget the big picture and I mess up and sin and I know that God is often disappointed in me, but yet God is still full of grace and love and forgiveness, which I must not abuse. And He is on the sidelines and in the audience, cheering us on and yelling out, “Go get ‘em, you can do it!” I must strive to be the Christian he wants me to be, I just often fail. I would like to be able to say, “I’m perfect!” Or “I have the right, Christian attitude every single hour of every single day of my life!” But I can’t. We must daily be reminded, and stay focused, and try to do our best. Getting a “C” wasn’t good enough for me in school. I don’t want to be lukewarm, I don’t want to do enough to just get by, or just to barely pass with a 70, but I want to get an A ++ in this life. I want to make God proud. Settling for mediocre or knowing I could have done better, that is or should not be good enough.
Why do I say all of that? To be honest. And to say that despite my doubting God or even forgetting Him at times, He has still been with Josh and I every step of the way. It’s neat to imagine Josh and I being puppets hanging from a string; with God just guiding us and adding the characters of the play we encounter along the way. And changing the backgrounds as we enter new places in our journey. He’s been behind the scenes all along.
He sent characters into the play, or into our story, who brought us into their homes to shelter us from the rain and wind and who invited us to dine at their table. How amazing to find Christian brothers and sisters across the world in another country, willing and able to offer their hospitality! We were gracious to the Raines for allowing us to stay in their home for two weeks, and for sharing many meals with us made by the hands of Jeanette. They really did take care of us; I thought that was such a sacrifice to share your home with someone because it takes away from your own family’s space and time with each other and privacy. What a great example of Christians. I thought of myself and back home and would I have done that? There were times when Josh and I, especially at this time of frustration and of being away so long from having our own space and place to call ours to settle into, still felt negative and complaining as we were so anxious and ready to move into our new flat. I was also still very tired of digging clothes out of my suitcase each day and everything being so scattered; I felt very discombobulated.
During our second week of staying at their house, Josh started his job. I found myself already missing him during the day and was so happy to see him when he got home. One of those nights Jeanette had asked if I would like to cook, which I enjoyed getting to do for the family. Felt really good to do that. I made comfort food; poppyseed chicken casserole, something I found I was able to make here. I’d had problems the few times I did try to cook when we were still at the Copeland’s house; I guess that’s part of living in another country, where they don’t always have the same ingredients. A lot of the food tastes very different, but that’s another story for another day about food and cooking in New Zealand. Anyways, I was so happy that it turned out and I also made my Granny’s sweet potato casserole again. The first time I made it in NZ was our Thanksgiving meal with Paul and Lynn in Nelson which I used the kumara, that was a white and golden color. This time I used a real sweet potato; it was orange. I was happy to see and make something familiar from back home and to have it taste just about the same too. I also made blueberry muffins. Jeanette, Antony and their sons Kevin and Jeremiah seemed to really like the meal, as did my hubby, so I was quite satisfied and pleased and that I was able to help out. I will always remember a particular meal Jeanette made of roasted chicken and kumara and carrots; that was so yummy! And her sweet iced tea always hit the spot.
Josh and I certainly needed to find some furniture for our new place. We did know that the flat came with a refrigerator and a washing machine, which was extremely helpful and saved us a lot of money and trouble. We knew we would need at least a couch and bed, so we looked and Josh bid on several items on Trademe. After much research, we found a futon/pull-out sofa that we really liked the looks of from the pictures and looked like it was in good condition. We thought it would serve to be very useful that it pulled out into a bed, in case we ever had company, or for those nights that Josh got in trouble and needed to sleep on the couch, haha. So, we drove out to Upper Hutt city, a suburb about 30 minutes outside of Wellington, to take a look and see if we really wanted it or not. There was no way we could have fit it into our hatchback car, so we had asked Gavin from church if he would be able to drive up there in his truck and pick it up for us and follow us to take back to the Raines house. We went to the address where the couch was and met the couple that brought us into their home to take a look. We both loved it; very comfortable and in great condition and would look perfect in our new flat. The lady even gave us five decorative pillows to go with it!
So, while we waited for Gavin and his wife Jenn, who I had recently gotten to know her better as she had led a really good ladies bible class. I also had hung out with her more as she had been starting a bible study with a lady interested in learning more about the bible. Jenn was approaching her due date as her baby was due in February, and had asked if any of the women in the church would be interested in helping take over and lead that bible study with this lady since Jenn would be having her baby and occupied with being a new mommy. I had volunteered to be the one to take over, and so in the meantime Jenn, Abigail, and I had met the week before with the lady and Jenn led the bible study.
Anyways, so as we waited for them to arrive, we had time to kill with this couple we were buying the couch from, which could have been really awkward or they could have just let us go outside and wait in our car as it would probably be awhile before they arrived, but instead they invited us upstairs to their living room to just chat. They offered us coffee and tea (a big deal over here, there are cafés and street vendors selling coffee drinks on nearly every corner), which we declined but thanked their hospitality. I’ve noticed I think that seems a lot nicer and everyone seems to offer this than what I’m used to or more likely to be offered a glass of water. It seems like they are really going more out of their way to make coffee or hot tea. So, it ended up being nearly an hour that we sat in the living room with this couple we had never met, making small talk. I guess I did feel awkward a few moments when there was silence, but for the most part, the four of us just chatted like old friends. They seemed so intrigued by our story and saying how brave we were to do what we had done in moving here and they were asking about life in America. It was really cool, I think, and I felt very comfortable being with them…just complete strangers! I love when stuff like that happens. They were in their mid to late forties I would guess, and the husband had a thick Kiwi accent and would say things like “Bugger” which I thought was funny. I almost couldn’t understand him sometimes his accent was so heavy. Either people here are just very friendly, or Josh and I look very innocent and trustworthy. If that had happened back home and we were selling furniture and a couple came over and were waiting on a truck to come over, I find it hard to imagine or if we were that couple that the ones selling it would invite us to chat for an hour on their sofa; instead, we probably would or normally anyone back home would have just gone and sat in their car and waited or drove around the block over and over again, haha. I found the majority of the conversation turning to sports and cars. He was amazed about my red 2007 Mustang I used to have and really torn up that I had to sell it; he was very impressed that I had owned one. Another observation; I have not seen one Mustang or Camaro or really any sports car, of the newer models. The one Mustang I have seen so far was the 1995 style. Maybe it’s just in Wellington, but I have seen very few flashy cars or big SUVS. It feels like we are in the early 1990’s or late 80’s with a bunch of used Japanese imports. We also talked, or Josh and the guy talked about Rugby and Football. When we told them how much players in the NFL make, they were flabbergasted. Tell me about it! The Rugby players in New Zealand make a lot of money, but its chump change compared to what professional sports players make back home. It’s disgusting and so unnecessary that they should make millions of dollars, I think. We had a really great time talking with both of them though, they seemed really cool and hip, and I was almost sad that our time with them had to end. I’m surprised they didn’t invite us for supper and ask us to vacation with them!
Gavin and Jenn came of which we were so grateful to them for helping us out, and then followed us back to the Raines house to store the couch in their garage until our move-in day. Fortunately, we didn’t have to worry about a bed anymore, as we had been shopping for and found them to be very expensive, but Keith and Elsa had offered to give us their guest room bed, the one we had slept on while we stayed at their house. They said and we had noticed that it kind of dipped in the middle, but that was due to one of the boards being missing, which we could fix. They said they were going to let us have it! For free! Wow, that was awesome and so helpful. It didn’t come with a headboard, but the mattress and box spring. Several different people from church and also the Raines helped us by giving some of their extra dishes: pots and pans, cups, bowls, silverware, etc. We were so grateful as this would really help us out since we had nothing but clothes and books to bring to our new flat. The Raines also let us borrow a TV until we save enough to get one.
At last, the day we had been waiting for . . . for like 2 ½ months now of hopping around like rabbits from one hole to the next, our move-in date arrived. Friday, January 27, 2012. What a glorious day! Haha. I couldn’t wait for Josh to get home from work that day, and I spent most of the day packing and tidying up our belongings and room we had been staying in at the Raines. I kept going back and forth to the room, restless and ready to move on, and making sure we had everything. It was like I was getting ready to go on a first date or something, having to go back and forth and look in the mirror, feeling so giddy and excited just waiting for him to ring the doorbell. What felt like an eternity of waiting, Josh finally arrived. I know he was just as stoked as I was. Antony and Jeanette helped us out again so much by pulling a trailer on the back of their van, and we loaded up the couch and then stopped by the Copeland’s house to pick up the bed. Then the Raines followed Josh and I in our car out to the other side of Wellington, passing the beach and ocean along the way and driving up the steep hill to View Road. The men carried the couch and bed down the long flight of stairs, and we unloaded the car load of our junk which I learned was not just clothes and books anymore, but seemed like we had already collected enough stuff to start our own flea market. We thanked the Raines and waved goodbye as they drove off.
Then, we walked down the stairs to our very own flat, our very own home all to ourselves with an amazing view in NEW ZEALAND! I wish I could describe that feeling; I don’t know if I’ve ever had such a feeling of relief as that moment. Josh had to stop me from running off the balcony in my enthusiasm at having our own space. We threw our stuff on the ground and couldn’t believe that we could finally leave it there…if we wanted it in the middle of the floor in the living room, well, it could just stay there the rest of our time here, we weren’t moving it! We spread our stuff out so much in our bedroom, the kitchen, the living room, bathroom, it was like throwing rose petals at a wedding how we scattered our stuff with quite exaggeration all over, to emphasize to each other and ourselves that we had every right to do so as this was our place now; our own rules and we were here to stay in this spacious, perfect flat for two with a view. I could leave my three pairs of shoes and dozens of pairs of socks lying around everywhere, as I’m always known to do and not have to worry about it. And Josh and I could finally be alone again. Oh man, we were so happy! That day had been cloudy and rainy, but we didn’t mind. At night, we left all the curtains open to take in the view of the lights covering all the mountains like hundreds of little candles on a birthday cake. We stood out on our balcony to hear the ocean crashing into the rocks far down below. There was definitely nothing to complain about! We went to bed feeling quite content and ready to go shopping the next day. More importantly, though, I had an exciting event taking place in the morning…but I will leave you in suspense and tell you about that in the next post!
So, after the exciting event the next morning that I will tell you about later, that afternoon we found a furniture sale at this warehouse outside of town. We made pretty good bargains, and bought a coffee table for 20 bucks, a little nightstand that would fit perfectly in the narrow space between the bed and our bedroom wall so that I could put my lifesaving lamp on. I have to have my lamp, remember, just like Josh has to have his fan! And we also bought a mirror for the bathroom. We went to the Warehouse, which is the closest thing to Walmart you can find here, and bought a few more necessities and a couple of decorations. All of these items we somehow managed to fit in our little car that has proven to be a miraculous bottomless pit in storage, and brought our belongings back to our flat. It was a beautiful clear, sunny warm day and we were taken aback by the beauty outside our window. We were home!
“You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore” ― Christopher Columbus
Wise words, Mr. Columbus. Wish I had heard those words before the hours leading up to Josh and I getting on the ferry. I felt my courage had abandoned me the entire morning as we awaited our departure on the Interislander. Josh and I did some last-minute errands like buying a cell phone and then killed some time until our ferry was to leave the North Island at 2 p.m. I’ve never been on a cruise before and the only ferry I’ve ever been on was in Corpus Christie, Texas, I think it was, and that was just across like two feet of water! But crossing an ocean? Ehhh, wasn’t feeling too confident about it and especially hearing the night before from one of our new friends how they got seasick and threw up the whole 4 hour ride. My nerves can certainly get the best of me sometimes. Just like waiting in the airport gives you time to worry, we then had to drive our car into the waiting area and just sit there . . . and think. What if I get sick? And everybody sees me throwing up? How embarrassing. What if a big storm comes up? That can definitely happen in a four-hour time span, I thought to myself. And what if we hit an iceberg? Are there enough lifeboats if something were to go wrong? What if a big whale jumps onto the boat? Haha, your imagination can run wild with anticipation, at least mine has always been hyperactive.
We watched the Interislander ferry slowly come into the harbor, and then we finally drove our car onto it, parking underneath in the boat’s big belly. “This is kind of cool,” I started thinking. I’ve been on little boats before out on the lake, and a small little riverboat cruise on a river, but this was incredible. We walked up the stairs and toured the ferry. Woah!!! It was huge! I felt like we were on the Titanic. I started feeling a lot better knowing there was lots of space to spread out and explore with four different levels and viewing decks. A restaurant, movie theatre, lounge, shop, dining areas, and sleeping cabins . . . this might be all right after all. I picked up some seasick throw-up bags they had hanging on the wall which also made me feel better too; just in case. Josh and I had fun going up and down the stairs and out onto the decks. I didn’t feel very nervous at all anymore, and then the boat started moving away from the dock. That was a little weird feeling at first, but we stayed on the top deck, which was the best place to be I think. Wow! What had I been scared about? This was amazing. Wellington is so beautiful, I felt kind of sad to be leaving it behind. It was a typical windy day, especially being out on the top deck, but the wind felt like freedom to our faces. Not a cloud in the blue sky, which made me even happier for I love the sun.
We watched Wellington grow small in the distance and slowly crawled across the blue waters and out into the wide-open ocean. We pulled out of the harbor and bays and began our journey out into the ocean, crossing the Cook Strait. My imagination and dreaming came to life more than ever and I pulled out my little journal and started writing. Talk about finding inspiration! Here are some things I wrote in my journal: “I love seeing the South Island getting closer, just waiting and begging for us to come explore and see every hill, valley, mountain, river, lake, and flower. Right now, at this moment, I really feel like an explorer . . . I bet this is what they felt like before me . . . Christopher Columbus, Captain Cook, Magellan, all those guys. What would that have felt like . . . to be on the open sea for days knowing in your heart that there was something out there waiting for you to find it. And how you would feel when your eyes saw land in the distance!”
I keep feeling like a little child here, haha, because my chest just felt so full it could burst with excitement as we saw the mountains of the South Island approaching closer every minute. Wild, untamed land. “You are now entering the land of the Lord of the Rings,” I said to myself. I don’t think I’ve mentioned that in here yet and those who know me already are aware, but I am obsessed with Lord of the Rings. I’ve been dreaming of coming to New Zealand since the Fellowship of the Ring hit theatres when I was a sophomore in high school, and now I’m here! Both the North and South Island were locations in the movies, but the South Island is known for its picturesque beauty and what I really imagined Middle Earth to look like.
We entered the Marlborough Sounds, and all the people gathered on the decks to view the breathtaking landscape and attempt to capture its beauty on their cameras. The land was quiet . . . the hills and mountains and pine trees were silent as they watched us from both sides. Houses were sparsely scattered along the mountains, reachable only by boat. One could already sense the different feel between the North and South Island . . . this land was definitely more desolate. After passing through the beautiful Sounds, we finally arrived at the South Island, into the little town called Picton.
From there we made our two-hour drive to our first destination and potential place of living, Nelson. Josh has never ceased to amaze me with his driving here! He has done so great! That was one of the prettiest drives, Ever! We passed by vineyard after vineyard as we made our way across the wine country; a beautiful foreground with the majestic mountains as the backdrop. The land felt alive and I honestly felt intimidated by the towering mountains. Not used to seeing mountains in Texas! Josh drove up the mountains on curvy, winding roads, on the left side of the road by the way, giving me a nice view of the sheer drop-off below. Scary! At last, though, we saw the ocean again (Josh and I were beginning to notice that we like to see the ocean) as we drove into Nelson as the sun was getting lower in the sky. Nelson was a smaller city, around 50,000 people, and very cute with shops and palm trees and flowers on hanging baskets lining the streets. We were exhausted and hungry so we found a nice place to eat by the outside cafés and then checked in to a hotel for the night. What a long, adventurous day!
Dated: November 14, 2011
Today was a great day. We went to church in Wellington at the Wellington church of Christ in the morning and met all the people we had been talking to via e-mail or Facebook the months leading up to moving here. Met Carl and Adeline, as well as Keith and Elsa, two couples our age…they were really cool. The singing was amazing…there weren’t that many people but they were singing loud and with their heart and it was neat to hear the New Zealand accent. The lesson was really good and Josh and I just both felt really comfortable. Jeanette and Antony took Josh and I out for lunch and we ate at a café. I had a yummy bacon and egg toasted sandwich. The day was beautiful again, which we were told we must have brought the sunny weather with us, because Wellington is known for its cloudy, wet, windy days. They say Wellington can experience all four seasons in one day.
The Raines drove us to the coast. The water was the bluest I had seen it yet in our time here, and I smelled the salty air and felt the ocean breeze. I love that feeling. I could almost see Antarctica from where we stood on the beach. Not really, but it was neat to know we were looking in the direction of where it was. We drove all along the coast and saw a couple lighthouses in the distance. I could only imagine what it would be like to live in one of the houses on the cliff sides. You can stare out at the ocean and dream and await the ships returning home. There’s something about seeing the open horizon that, at least for me, brings my imagination to life. I feel better inside, like I am able to dream more and the limits to what I can do are as endless as the ocean stretched out before me. Maybe it’s a comfort to me, a feeling of home, from growing up in Midland…West Texas. There are no trees to block your view there (I mean really, no trees! Ha) and you can see the horizon for miles. You can see the great big thunderhead cloud as the summer storms slowly crawled across the flat lands to rain on us, or pass us by usually. There was a park on the edge of town I loved going to, that had bleachers I would sit on and with my friends sometimes, and watch the fire red, golden, pink and purple hued sunsets that always captivated me and that I felt were God’s gift to me. The wind would blow in my face and that’s how I felt there…like I could dream and there was nothing holding me back.
But anyways, haha, I digress…so we drove along the coast then went back to the Raine’s house for a little break before evening service. The Raines were so gracious to us and helped us out by giving us a big tent of theirs that we could use for when we go camping. Antony gave Josh a backpack he can take when we go hiking, and gave us walking sticks, and a gas cooking stove and pots and pans. How nice! We were so thankful to them for that. We stuffed those things in our already full car, haha…our little red Nissan Sentra was loaded like a baked potato from Texas Roadhouse (Mmmm, that sounds good to me right now, actually the loaded sweet potato!)
Then we went to the evening service which was held at the new church plant in the suburb where Kevin lived, in Porirua. That was a great lesson and class from Kevin, and I was amazed again by the beautiful, heartfelt singing. Afterwards, we rode with Carl and Adeline and her sister Abigail to go to the Malaysian restaurant that Adeline and Abigail’s family owned in Wellington. One of my best friends Beverly is from Malaysia, and she has cooked traditional food for me before. I was excited to eat there, and hoping also it wouldn’t be too spicy for my weak stomach. Josh lives to eat spicy food (he misses Wingstop, a LOT!) and I can take small doses of it, though much more than I used to since meeting him. We went to the restaurant, Istana Malaysia, and it was really nice…loved the atmosphere and there were paintings and photographs taken mainly by the church members. We had a large table for the group of us that included me, Josh, Abigail, Staci who was studying abroad from Oklahoma, Keith, Elsa, Chris, Kevin, Carl and Adeline. That was so much fun…I felt really comfortable with all of them and we were all around the same age. We had made friends with New Zealanders! Awesome! Keith and Elsa were actually from the States and had moved to NZ and we had been e-mailing with them for quite a while before we got here. In fact, I think they were our very first contact so that was neat to finally meet them. Every one was giving us advice and telling us about the South Island. They said the South Island is less populated than the North and the people were different down there…sounding like once we left Wellington we were basically leaving civilization. That made me feel a little nervous, but that’s what we were hoping to go to…see the more rugged terrain like you imagine New Zealand to be like. Still, we both were wondering about leaving Wellington and our new friends who we really liked and had been helping us out. But it also made us even more excited because this was truly an adventure we were about to go on.
The food was delicious! I loved it…especially the curry. I love rice too, I could eat that all day. We had a wonderful time just talking and laughing and learning more about NZ life and what to look out for. The cost of living is quite expensive here, so that’s something we have to get used to. Anyways, Josh and I were still having a rough time with the jet lag, and it was about 7 something there on Sunday night, when we would usually be in bed back home. We were so tired. We finally left, though we would have liked to chat some more if we felt better. Rode back with Kevin to his house and then Josh and I got our bags ready for when we would be leaving civilization the next morning. We were very excited to be on our own again!
Dated: November 13, 2011